When I met my new husband and two children, I think a part of me knew it was over and wanted to write about it. I would keep little journals throughout, but it felt so personal at the time and I didn’t really know what it was. You would never do that here.īut you can! You can be open to chatting with people and just being happy that there’s someone being kind to you and inviting you someplace fun-instead of saying, “do I really like this person? Are they smart enough? Should I date them? Are they good enough for me? Is it a waste of my time?”Īs you were going on these trips around the world, were you aware that you eventually wanted to write about them, or was that something you discovered afterward?

Since you’re so open, you start chatting up the person next to you and suddenly you’re at their mother’s birthday party in Brazil. And the secret about traveling alone is that you’re alone for about a minute. When you’re traveling alone, you’re desperate for company. Yes, I talk in the book about this “Kristen-Adjacent” creature who I am when I’m on the road-she’s less judgmental, more open, a little softer and a little sluttier. Traveling allowed you to transform into this persona you call “Kristin-Adjacent.” What is it about traveling to a foreign country that allows you to transform into this alternate version of yourself? It can literally save you money to go there for a couple months. The truth of the matter is, when I spent three months living in an apartment in Buenos Aires, that was a cheaper three-month period than living in Los Angeles would have been. I hope that women might be a little braver and not worry so much about what other people think about your life choices, you sitting alone at the table or you deciding to wait a little longer to settle down.Īlso, I am really lucky that I have a job that gives me the time and lifestyle to go on these trips, but even when I was babysitting, I would get a tent and car and just go. We as women sometimes feel uncomfortable doing those kinds of things alone and are afraid of what people think of us. If you’re brave, you can have a great adventure in your own town. You can talk to your waiter and the people at the tables next to you and walk down the street all by yourself. What advice would you give single women who may not be ready to settle down, in order to help them hold onto their free spirits, like you managed to do?Įven if everyone can’t drop everything and go around the world, you can wake up in your house feeling a little bit lonely, and just grab a book and go to a restaurant. Your story is unique in that your career as a television writer allotted you the time and freedom to travel around the world for long periods.

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